Mens Family & Leadership Coach

West Side
Bend, Oregon 97703

I help successful men finally achieve success at home through a path of inner mastery.

Not Therapy

Therapy can be great, but it can also get you stuck.

It’s been my experience that most men need something more practical, grounded, and portable.

Core Teaching

Live on a high.

Access new heights of awareness without psychoactive substances.

Enjoy the only one-time session I offer below.

One-Time Session

Get what you want.

The healthy marriage.

The closeness with your kids.

The happier version of you.

They all become possible when you really know who you are.

About Jake
  • “Jake blew the lid off my life. You can feel the confidence and experience coming out of him when he teaches, but he’s still so grounded and approachable. His insight has been invaluable.”

    —Chad | N. Carolina

  • "Wisdom coupled with authenticity. You just get the feeling that Jake has been through what you’re going through and come out the other side. Like he’s not lecturing or just giving you a solution, but that’s he sees elements of himself in your situation and he’s working on it *with* you."

    —Jackson | Georgia

  • "Jake's method helped me see why my 'leadership' was failing: FEAR. I've learned how to be present to my most difficult thoughts and feelings, with courage. My wife and kids have definitely noticed! Our home has totally transformed."

    —Zach | Oregon

  • "Jake helped me claim my masculinity for myself; not according to what society wants, but according to what I want. He helped me purify my intention and taught me the power of my Word to Self. I feel unshakeable."

    —Justin | Missouri

The Problem

Most men come to me using different language for the same underlying issue.

Some call it work–life balance.
Others say they want a better home life.
Some ask it more bluntly:

  • “Why does it feel like my wife is never satisfied with me?”

  • “Why do I struggle to really connect with my kids?”

  • “Why do I feel competent everywhere except where it matters most?”

Different words. Same tension.

What you’re experiencing isn’t a lack of effort, intelligence, or commitment.

It’s a mismatch between outer competence and inner command.

The Answer Keeps Escaping

because you’re searching the wrong places

Most men try to solve the issue by doing more:

  • Better habits

  • Better systems

  • Better communication techniques

  • Better routines

  • More Therapy

And while those things aren’t wrong, they rarely produce the shift you’re actually looking for.

Because the change you want doesn’t arrive through checklists or through “doing.”
It arrives through subtle internal shifts that change how you enter situations in the first place.

Leadership—real leadership—is energetic before it’s behavioral.

You won’t create change

through force.

You’ll create it by resetting your presence.

So what does that look like?

Your presence is already communicating something—at work and at home.

Before a word is spoken.
Before a decision is made.
Before a boundary is set.

When there’s static in that internal signal, no amount of “right behavior” can compensate for it.

What’s missing isn’t effort.
It’s orei.

The ability to perceive nuance—internally and relationally—before things escalate, disconnect, or go cold.

This doesn’t mean walking on eggshells. Not at all. It means becoming well acquainted with the business of your internal kingdom, so you can reign with awareness inside and out.

This Work Is Less About Doing

and Much More About Being

Not performing.
Not fixing.
Not managing emotions like problems to be solved.

Instead, we work on:

  • Opening perception without tightening control

  • Regaining curiosity without defaulting to certainty

  • Removing internal noise that’s been mistaken for discipline

  • Letting go of habits that once protected you—but now limit you

Think of it like clearing weeds from a garden.

You don’t force growth.
You remove what’s blocking it.

Create space for something

new to grow

Right now, your nervous system is running familiar patterns; neural pathways have become ruts dug out by repetition, pressure, and responsibility.

Inner Mastery brings a fresh snowfall.

Old tracks disappear.
New movement becomes possible.
New responses emerge naturally—without rehearsing them.

Connection stops being something you try to do.
And leadership stops feeling like a grind.

This is Inner Mastery

in Real Life

Not theory.
Not self-help.
Not spiritual bypass.

This is about becoming clearer, steadier, and more intentional—so your prowess at home finally matches the leadership you’ve developed everywhere else.

If that resonates, you’re in the right place.

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